Does this sound like you?
It’s easier to allow the circumstances to dictate your emotions than to manage them, but it is possible!
I heard about the concept of being a thermostat instead of a thermometer during a monthly homeschool support group meeting, and I was intrigued. I wanted to set the tone of my home instead of it being controlled by emotions – mine and my children’s.
I printed out reminders the next day to “Be a thermostat, not a thermometer,” and placed them all over the house. When I started to get overwhelmed, upset, or emotional, I would repeat under my breath, “Be a thermostat. Be a thermostat.”
Slowly, I began to see an improvement. I didn’t have to remind myself to manage my emotions as frequently. It was becoming a habit! Friends started to notice and ask how I was able to stay calm and be a thermostat.
I didn’t realize it at the time, but I was developing my emotional intelligence (EQ for short) before it was a buzz word. 😏 I remember the day I heard about emotional intelligence on a coaching podcast, and I thought, “Yes! That’s exactly what I’m doing. I want to learn more!”
As I learned more about emotional intelligence, I discovered that there are tools to help me be a thermostat. I began utilizing the tools and teaching my children and anyone else who would listen how to use them.
I’m so excited that I get to share them with you, too, so you can learn how to be a thermostat and set the tone of your home so your whole family can thrive! You can download the Thermostat Approach Toolkit and learn the three-step framework to manage your emotions instead of letting them control you.
Want to learn more about setting the tone of your home and becoming a thermostat? Here are a collection of podcast episodes and blog posts about developing emotional intelligence and managing your emotions instead of letting them control you.
Want a little more help?
Sometimes we need to talk through what’s working and where we are struggling.
That’s where coaching can help. During a coaching call, we can explore what might be triggering your thermometer reactions and preventing you from setting the desired tone of your home. As you gain awareness of the situation, you will be able to view it from a bird’s eye view and make decisions about how to move forward and increase your emotional intelligence skills.
Book a free Discovery Call today, and let’s determine your next step in setting the tone of your home.