“Mom! That was fun!” the girls exclaimed after stepping off the subway platform after we visited the Federal Reserve Bank in Chicago. There was a time I wouldn’t take both of them at the same time to Chicago. After much time spent on habit training and time for them to mature a little, I finally felt they were ready for this adventure.
Today’s episode of the Triumphant Minute is about why setting high expectations for your children is important and what to do when they don’t live up to them.
Why You Should Set High Expectations For Your Children
So many in our society today are doing the bare minimum to just get by. They don’t aspire to greater things. You have an amazing opportunity to influence your children to achieve greatness. And it starts at home with small things.
It requires training your children and patience on your part, but even young children are capable of much more than we often give them credit for. Not only are they capable of helping around the house, but they are capable of controlling themselves in an appropriate manner, such as sitting quietly during a church service or at dinner.
We do need to be mindful of their developmental abilities and have realistic expectations. Young children will not be able to sit still for long periods of time with nothing to do, but given a coloring book or small toy they should be capable of sitting quietly for short periods of time.
We have taken our daughters to many social events including museums, meals with friends, concerts, and business dinners. Because we have invested the time to train them in how to behave at these functions and expect that same behavior at home, we trust them to behave appropriately.
Sometimes our children choose to not to live up to the high expectations we place before them. During these times, we choose to show love and grace. They will lose the privilege of attending special functions, but we help them succeed at home and try to inspire them to better behavior so they can attend the next event.
It is not always pleasant in the midst of habit training and often our daughters have been frustrated when they realized how much more we expect of them than is expected of others they know. But they almost always thank us for setting the expectations high when they see the additional privileges they have because they know how to behave and how to care for themselves.
What do you think?
Do you set high expectations for your children? How have you handled it when others have questioned your expectations or your children have grumbled about them?
Let us know in the comments below!
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